It’s just about holiday season, and you know what that means. 5 weeks of binge eating followed by thousands of resolutions to get in better shape in the new year. The thing that drives me nuts is that people find all kinds of reasons as to why they can’t get into shape, or it’s not their fault they are overweight. Fact is there are 10 reasons that you are out of shape, and for 99% of us they are all totally within our control. Before you complain about being out of shape with no hope, or make empty promises about getting into shape in the new year here are the 10 real reasons that most people are overweight. If you want to be in shape, stop complaining, read this, and make some changes. You CAN do it.
THE REAL REASONS YOU’RE OVERWEIGHT
Let’s just get this out of the way first. For 1/1000th of the population (or less) they are overweight because of genetics. There are some people that have a real serious struggle, genetically, to get in shape. However, for most of us we may not be able to eat whatever we want and keep a 6pack but we have the ability to get in shape whenever we want to take control of our lives. It’s just a question of trying.
2. You eat wrong
Yup, don’t tell me you eat well, because you don’t. Most people don’t eat right (even skinny people). There are a variety of ways that people don’t eat properly but the fact is unless you can actually be honest about your eating habits it’s hard to ever change them:
- Do you eat too much sugar? Cookies, cake, candy… Dessert foods should be a treat (not once a day, but maybe once a week)
- Do you eat too little? Eating only one meal a day isn’t good… Eat too little and your metabolism just does not run
- Do you eat too many carbs? Here’s a fact, carbs get processed like sugar and are used for energy. You don’t have to go all crazy and be zero carb but cut out the unnecessary carbohydrates and replace them with more vegetables and protein
- Do you eat often enough? Your metabolism needs to run to burn calories, and eating is what turns it on. Little meals all day.
Fact is these rules are pretty well known by this point. However, most people just don’t follow them, but PRETEND like they eat healthy. They sneak food and snacks and pretend like if they tell their friends all they ate was a salad that their body didn’t consume that Magnolia Cupcake on the low. Just eat right because it’s 90% of not being fat.
3. You’re lazy
This is probably the thing that I find to be the most true. Most people are lazy. They just aren’t willing to put in any of the work that it takes to change their habits. Too lazy to eat right or prep meals. Too lazy to hit the gym. Too lazy to do be healthier. I don’t care who you are or what you do for a living, if I know single moms that work two jobs and still have time/energy to eat right and workout a little bit then you can too – and don’t say otherwise. It’s a choice. Odds are if your lazy in one area of life, you’re probably lazy in other areas of life too. Think about it, and you’ll know I’m right. When you eat right, workout and just work hard in general you WILL feel better and you WILL see larger changes in everything.
4. You workout wrong
The people who don’t workout at all go into that lazy category I just mentioned. Not working out right is a different issue. It’s the people who actually carve out the time to workout but then but aren’t really doing it right. You probably fit into one of these categories:
- Don’t know what you’re doing: There is a part of the population that just don’t have a clue what they are doing at all. I don’t blame them for not knowing what they are doing, but I do blame them for just never acknowledging this enough to go get some help. Ask a friend, get a trainer, or google/youtube workouts!
- Don’t work hard enough: I’m sorry but if you’re not sweating or you’re not physically tired when you’re done working out – you didn’t work hard enough. If you show up to the gym and just go through the motions your body isn’t getting anything out of it anyway. Annndddddd….. TAKE YOUR HANDS OFF THE CARDIO EQUIPMENT. Run, walk, whatever but take your hands off and push yourself a bit.
- Don’t Program: Listen if you’re not on a program, and just show up and do a little bit of everything you’re not doing anything at all. Download a program online, get a trainer, but get on a program
It’s a myth that just working out at all is what you need to do. You need to work smart (first) and then work hard. It doesn’t take much effort to learn how to workout right, get on a program, and then push yourself. But it takes a small bit of effort (which is why laziness comes before fitness in this list).
5. You have no will power:
Everything in life, if you want to be successful at it, requires commitment and will power. You need to actually be able to set a goal, do the work and STICK TO IT. Getting in shape and staying in shape, is the same thing. You need to have some level of commitment to your diet, to your workouts, to your lifestyle. Commitment is one of the most personal and important characteristics a person can have. Much like laziness can leak into other areas of your life, if you’re a committed person it will (in a good way) spill over into all areas of your life. Learn to focus and commit.
6. You think this is a temporary thing:
Being healthy and fit is a lifestyle change, not a fad. One of the most disappointing things I ever encountered was when I worked at an agency representing one of the most popular nutritional plans and products in the market. You know what they said? They said their marketing goal was to associate their products NOT with a healthy lifestyle, but with a quick fix diet solution. They found that their market spent 300% more money when they got sucked into yo-yo dieting (put on weight over time and then take it off quick), rather than taking off weight and just staying healthy. That’s the thing, quick fix diets don’t really work because they are based on the idea that YOU’RE GOING TO GET FAT AGAIN. Then, they hope, you’ll buy their shit product again to lose the weight. There is no end point where you should stop eating healthy or a magic weight where you should stop working out. Atkins, Juice diets, 30 day slimmers… they are all bullshit. Set small goals, and then meet them. Then set new small goals and meet them. It is a lifestyle change. That doesn’t mean you can’t have small lapses here and there, but the lapses should be the few and far between periods, not the healthy periods.
7. You’re stuck in a rut:
Have you been doing the same thing over and over for years now? At some point your body is going to get used to it and it’s going to become less and less effective. That’s true about diet as well as workout regiment. You need to make full-scale changes here and there to keep your body challenged. This is even more true when it comes to your fitness program. Been running for years? Try weight training. Been in the same weight training program for months? Try 12 weeks of a crossfit class. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and try new things. Challenge your body and re-spark your internal fire.
8. You’re stressed:
Stress can cause you to not sleep well, to feel tired, to feel weak, to feel unfocused, and prevent you from actually sleeping. Times in life can be hard, they can be extremely challenging. However, if you let those times consume you… you WILL fail. They will defeat you. And a big part of that will come out on your body and your physical appearance. You need to grab hold of your mental state during tough times by prioritizing solutions to whatever is stressing you out. Focus on the things that you can control, and then control them. Everything else? You need to let it go. Stressed out people DO hold body fat and do look worn down. You don’t want to be that person. Besides just the way you look, you should want to be in a better place mentally as well.
9. You don’t see the reason:
Why even be in shape? I’m happy the way I am. Honestly, 90% of the time this is a cop out. No, not everyone needs to have a 6pack or even be an athlete. However, saying that you’re happy being fat and out of shape is just non-sense. You’re shortening your life, you’re at risk for diabetes, you’re just not healthy. Are there some people that are happy being overweight? Sure. However, I still maintain most people just say this because they’ve lost hope in changing.
Don’t you want to be able to play with your kids or be active with your friends? Don’t you want people to find you attractive? I’m sorry but not getting laid doesn’t make anyone feel good. If you’re single and can’t get laid it’s miserable. If you’re in a relationship and the other person doesn’t find you attractive anymore it destroys your sex life (and yes that can lead to cheating and breakups). How about the fact that professionally overwieght people aren’t nearly as successful or promoted as often (on average) as thinner or better looking people. It sucks, but it’s true. It’s a perception thing. There are a million reasons to be in shape and healthy. I’m not pretending like fit people are automatically happy, but it definitely removes a whole bunch of other stresses and problems from your psyche.
10. You’re just full of excuses:
I’m too busy. I can’t cook. I don’t have the money. I’m injured. On and on and on and on. This is 100% the biggest reason people are out of shape. There is always some bullshit excuse as to why people can’t or won’t change how they are. Forget that, it’s all bullshit. If you want something you can have it. I am 100% a believer in that and living proof of it. You may not always love the amount of work it takes to get started, but if you put in the work you can achieve results. Excuses are honestly the root of all failures. When you fail at something… OWN it. Then when you achieve something, be proud of it. Everyone fails at things, and there is nothing wrong with that. But don’t let it or the fear of it, consume you. You need to take chances and try at things in order to ever achieve success. There is that stupid and obvious cliche, “you miss 100% of the shots you never take.” But it’s true. If you make excuses and/or never try, yes you will always be overweight, and worse you’ll always fail at things.
Listen… this whole post isn’t about berating people who are trying… it’s about opening up the eyes of complainers. Improvement and effort is all you should be striving for. Everyday, little by little, improve yourself and try and be better. It’s a good thing, and one which you can accomplish. But as for all the people that bitch and complain and put in no real work or have no self awareness… welp… you’ve got 10 reasons to stop complaining.